Comments on: Spinning

By: Louise

Louise — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 22:17:23 +0000

First amid all this pouring out of your heart and serious writing, I nearly spit out my chocolate (because what else would be in my mouth right now?) at this: “Still, it’s not without consequences (everyone wave to my mother).” Lord knows there have been some UGLY consequences in that department…. UGLY. And stupid. And childish. HI JENNIFER’S MOM! I know about some recent e-mails that I think you sent directly to Jennifer because you’re afraid of being attacked online. My opinion of you isn’t improving! And really, you are so naive. But this isn’t about you….

Emily R’s comment made me laugh, too. It is a wonder. Someone recently said, “He’s lucky you even speak to him.” True. I am pretty sure I wouldn’t. Maybe I’m wrong, but I don’t think I would. He IS lucky. One would think one might recognize that. The ability of people to not own up to their failings astounds me. All of us have them. Facing them and addressing the issues is NOT a failing. Ignoring them is an additional one. I can’t disagree with anything Mr. H said, either. Seems to me there is a LOT of selfishness going on, and it’s the parents… ALL of them.

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By: phd in yogurtry

phd in yogurtry — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 15:13:27 +0000

Kudos for your courage. It could be a real blessing for the ‘rents. to get to know their daughter better. Or a nightmare. Or both. Regarding mine, I like your phrase, wishing to keep things separate. I have a long built up habit of expecting (from having gotten) criticism. I’d like to keep that out of my head and off of my blog. So even if I didn’t keep things anon for professional reasons, I probably would in this case, too.

By: RiverPoet

RiverPoet — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 15:31:42 +0000

Girl, all you can do is throw the ball and wait for the receiver to take it the rest of the way. Sometimes there are nail-biting moments when you’re not sure if he’ll fumble it or not, but in the end, the play is in motion.

Like Em, I applaud you for doing this. It took a tremendous amount of courage, and I know it will turn out okay. Wonderfully told, as always – D

By: Em

Em — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 23:01:13 +0000

Wow – really, I applaud you. I know it must be hell waiting, but your courage to tell it like it is amazes me.

As you know, my blog is under a pseudonym, part for privacy, part to give me courage to say the things I want to say. My mother does not know that I have a “me” blog. She has access to my family one, but that’s it. I imagine she guesses I have another one. I do not allow her to see it because I pretend her opinion means nothing to me, but if it truly meant nothing, I would tell her about it, wouldn’t I?

37 and still needing my mother’s approval. Someone get me a couch.

I hope you hear good things from your father very soon.

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 22:54:58 +0000

Recently a cliche recently hit me as true: we are the stars of our own films, and each of us is creating our own film every day. So, your father may never be able to fully understand the perspective you bring to what you write here because he saw it through the filter of his own life. Hopefully, while it may be difficult for him to read some of the things you see and feel, hopefully it will provide him with insight into you and your perspective on the past and present.

By: jenrantsraves

jenrantsraves — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 19:41:18 +0000

You are brave and strong, and I think that in order for you and your dad to have a relationship this HAD to be brought out into the open. I really hope that he says what you want him to say, but if he doesn’t, at least you know that you did what you could.

By: Ree

Ree — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 16:10:42 +0000

I can’t even imagine what you were feeling when you made that call – but I don’t doubt that it was a relief when it was over – regardless of the outcome.

By: flutter

flutter — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 03:15:35 +0000

His hurt will subside and he will call. You are more than worth that

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 03:13:33 +0000

Wow. That’s very brave of you. And the right thing to do too. He really did need to learn about it from you.

I hope he catches that pass, and passes it right back.