Comments on: Picture imperfect

By: Technobabe

Technobabe — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 01:05:27 +0000

It doesn’t matter what other people think about what you do. You are being true to your own beliefs and working toward your own healing. You did say in this post “Whatever I do, it will be measured and careful and without anger or any hope for justice of some kind.”
So, with no expectations and without anger , you are facing something within yourself and looking for closure, not revenge. Best wishes to you for completion and closure.

By: Sophia

Sophia — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:37:31 +0000

I’ve just followed the link to read the other posts and I think you’re very brave to do what you’ve done. It can be hard to let go of the past when there is no justice, when the person or people responsible for your pain just seem to go on with life with no ramifications. Where’s the karma? Where’s the justice? I hope that you can feel the support from your readers, and let us lift you us when you feel weighed down. Well done – I applaud you.

By: Butternut Squash

Butternut Squash — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 14:00:57 +0000

Narcissists are completely frightening human beings. They often look very normal and pleasant to the outside world while they are terrorizing at home. Though I wouldn’t expect her to feel much about what you have written, she will know that it could affect her negatively in the eyes of others. More important is that you protect yourself and others from her.

Ofcourse you already know that most abusers have been abused themselves. It could be that her support for this cause makes a great deal of sense in her mind. Perhaps we could even hope for a little guilt or remorse for what she has done.

Peace.

By: brian miller

brian miller — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 11:04:24 +0000

Congrats on POTD. catching up with your story I can see why David picked it. it took a lot of strength to do what you did. i hope it does open dialogue with your mother…of course my wishes are for the best. but good job laying it out there….

By: Beth

Beth — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 10:58:02 +0000

I am impressed with your action! My step-mother wasn’t abusive but she was indifferent to the needs of my sister and I. After our father died, she did and said a lot of things that still hurt to this day (almost 30 years later). I wish I could be more like you and tackle the hurt head on.

By: Maggie May

Maggie May — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 10:04:17 +0000

It is so normal to react. Any one would.
However you have gone beyond that and have come out in peace. No one can take that away from you.
Congratulations on POTD. Came over from Davidi’s.

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 01:06:22 +0000

Wowza. That is a lot to take in.

I think you are one of the most amazing women I’ve ever “known.” I’m incredibly awed by your calm demeanor during this. I would be flipping I think.

By: Louise

Louise — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 00:35:38 +0000

We’ve talked about this already, so I’ll just say I LOVE the reactions from above.

By: Heather

Heather — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 04:44:29 +0000

Wow. I couldn’t begin to imagine your pain and the kind of person that does the things that she has done. I just support you in your decisions. Hugs to you.

By: Cammie

Cammie — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 16:54:26 +0000

I can only imagine the anger I would have felt seeing that. How dare she act like she is an advocate for these children after what she did. It would make me want to SCREAM out loud! I am so proud of you that you contacted her to let her know some people know the truth. Then to let go a little piece at a time.